How I’m Taking Charge of My Dreams

"If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me."

Those words loop through my mind constantly, like a motivational playlist stuck on repeat. It’s my reminder that success—whatever that looks like—is in my hands. But knowing that doesn’t make things easier. Being a leader at my 9-to-5 is already a full plate, so adding the dream of starting my own business? That feels like trying to balance a skyscraper on top of it.

Honestly, the fear of being stretched too thin is real. Will I burn out? Will I fail? Yet still, those words echo louder: “If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me.”

The funny thing is, life is full of tiny nudges, moments that make you pause and rethink. One day, while scrolling through social media, I realized just how much time we spend on our phones. Sharing my story crossed my mind. Could I? Should I? Could my experience be the encouragement someone else needs?

That thought stayed with me, but so did the doubts.

• What if my story isn’t interesting?
• What if people think I’m showing off?
• Will people feel like I’m trying to be better than them?
• What if I lose friendships over this?
• Do I even know enough to be successful?

If you’ve ever had these thoughts, you know how much power they hold. They plant themselves in your mind, whispering, “Who do you think you are to dream so big?” My inner voice grew louder, questioning if I was enough.

Here’s the kicker: while I’m incredibly confident at work, starting a business feels like a completely different beast. It’s scary, exposing, and overwhelming. But deep down, I also know this—I want it.

I want to be seen as someone who’s extraordinary, someone who shows up, owns her story, and handles her business like a total badass. Not in a “look at me” kind of way, but in a “wow, if she can do it, maybe I can too” way.

I realized that the fear of being judged or losing friends shouldn’t outweigh the possibility of living the life I want. Yes, the fear is strong. Yes, the doubts creep in. But you know what’s stronger? My desire to show up for myself—and for others.

And that’s when it clicked: What if sharing my journey, fears and all, could actually help someone? Maybe someone who’s struggling with the same doubts I’ve wrestled with.

So, I made a promise to myself: I’m going to stop overthinking and start taking steps toward the life I want. Sharing this story is one of those steps. It’s messy. It’s imperfect. But it’s mine—and that’s what makes it powerful.